Dating site for people who want kids
They tell me 9/10 women between the ages of 30-40 they encounter online already have a kid/s, and aren't looking to have anymore; which makes them gravite to younger women in their 20's. A woman who is 36-40 is gong to do everything she can to conceive naturally before spending tens of thousands of dollars on other methods... You don't consider adoption just because you're past being at your most fertile age..either. Finally, a male in his 40s is more likely than a younger male to produce a child with mental or health challenges. The 45 year old doesn't even have a man in her life. He told me that the relationship can only go so far because he can only marry a Jewish woman so there would be no conflict when they raise their kids. Most of the other parents will be in mid 40s; lots of parents will be in mid 30s.
BTW, 36 is not really all that old to have kids - instead of getting pregnant in a couple or 3 months maybe it'll take 6 - 8..you'd investigate for possible issues. She dates a few guys, and finally meets "the one" by age 39 to get serious. So when 36-40 year old childless women on online dating indicate that they definitely want children, does this most likely mean adoption? I have two female clients who are well into their 40s and want biological children. Then by the time the child finishes college and has children of own, the new grandparents would be pushing 70. For this reason, I'd think a late 30's to 40ish year old childless couple would want to adopt children already 5-8 years old (not babies).
These men were in their mid-to-late 30s and early 40s. And I would very nicely tell them they were dating the wrong woman, extricate myself, and move on. Two different, otherwise wonderful, handsome, and brilliant men said they "understood" after I opened up about my fears.
However, I was In addition to checking the "no kids" box on dating sites, I would clearly bring up my childfree decision sometime in the first few dates. And then they each promptly sabotaged the birth control that I was very strict about.
I met wonderful, interesting men, who showed me parts of New York I hadn't known—all very rom-commy and joyful.
But just like a formulaic movie plot, they all wanted kids. Age had something do with it: I was in my early 30s. wanted babies (more than one told me how beautiful I would look pregnant). So I took it a step further and explained how terrified I was, physically and mentally, to be pregnant, to care for needy small humans.
My suspicions were confirmed when they asked me later with hopeful (as in, not worried) eyes if I could be pregnant. And then I met a guy at a friend's birthday party in Brooklyn.
In 1972, Gloria Steinem said, "We're just talking wombs," a quote that I had always thought was hyperbolic. I gave up online dating, the lure of which was that you could put out there what you really wanted—or didn't want—and you could find a match on at least your most basic values (like not wanting children). Handsome in just the way I find men attractive—tall, slim, brilliant, and incredibly sensitive—he was, even on our first date, too good to be true.
Once again, I'm expected to say my scripted part, smile, and everyone will know exactly where they stand.
I have a question about childless women ages 36-40 on online dating sites who say they definitely want kids. We started trying when she was about 35 despite being together for over 15 years. It took us 5 years but we had twins at 40 (and I was 43) so it's possible. I'm sure they would want to try naturally first to see if they can conceive, then in-vitro if they have the money/insurance covers it.
If insurance covers that it would probably be a lot cheaper than adoption.
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